My husband is a smart guy. And he goes to school with a bunch of other smart guys....and girls. For this reason, I feel like I need to remind him every now and then that, I too, am a smart girl. It's true, I can't talk to him about teratogenesis, gangliosidosis, or metachromatic leukodystrophy (confession: I have no idea how to pronounce some of these things, let alone know what they are. I just looked at one of his open books and picked out a few big words), but I am still an intelligent woman! He thinks I'm silly, but I really feel like I need validation from him. For example, when I finish editing some pictures from a photo shoot, I need him to tell me that they're amazing, fantastic, I am the best photographer in the world! Ok that last part would be a lie, but I still want him to say it. He thinks that I am a mature enough person that he should be able to critique me instead of just praising me--that I should already know that he thinks my pictures are good. Well, guess what? I'm not that mature, and I do need praise and approval! Even when I write this blog, I need him to think I'm funny and witty and the best writer in the world! Once again, not true. When I say something funny in a group of people, I only really care if he laughs. Maybe this just means I'm insecure, but it is what it is.
So, Mr. Smarty Pants, I know that I'm not perfect, nor am I the best at anything. BUT if you could pretend like I am, I would greatly appreciate it.
Love,
Mrs. Smarty Pants.
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I totally know how you feel!
ReplyDeleteI second that! My husband is such a smart guy, and yes, maybe that makes me feel a little insecure at times about my own abilities and smartness, but it really means the world to me when he praises me for hard things I accomplish, my photographic skills, and when I know things well enough to have a deep, intellectual conversation with him.
ReplyDeleteYes, I'm smart, too!
me too (to the above comment). nate's strengths-- math, technology, finances-- are totally the opposite of mine which sometimes makes me feel dumb. i hate that feeling! I AM SMART! in my better moments i remember that we complement each other but in my worst I feel like he is better at everything than me.
ReplyDeleteI am the exact same way :)
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